“Staying together for the kids will not do them any favors when they have to live in a home filled with negative energy and a lack of love.”
“Studies consistently show that it’s not the divorce that hurts children; its the level of conflict between parents.”
“Don’t stay together for the kids. They should grow up knowing what happiness and love is, rather than misery and hate. Sincerely, the child of divorced but happy parents.”
“It’s like the old thing: the parents stay together for the kids, but the kids know you don’t want to be together. The kids would rather you happy – and separate – than together and miserable. I don’t want my kid to grow up around two parents who just don’t work.”
“I get sick of that old rationalization, ‘We’re staying together because of the children.’ Kids couldn’t be more miserable living with parents who can’t stand each other. They’re far better off if there’s an honest, clean divorce.”
“Children who are exposed to escalated parental conflict or disconnection can develop symptoms. These symptoms can serve as an unconscious effort to shift the parents’ attention on the child, which will distract the child’s parents from their conflict. Children are very loyal and can also take on a role of trying to prevent their parents from fighting or try to get in between fights. This is not good for the mental health of children. This is not childrens’ developmental task, but they will do it out of loyalty. Exposure to escalated conflict involving verbal, physical or behavioral battle is never good for children – especially if it goes on for years.”